Sunday, July 22, 2012

The Breakup Blog

I am not, nor do I claim to be, a relationship or Psychology expert. However, I do believe these are some helpful tips for dealing with the heartache of a break up, although everyone may have their own personal ways. In addition, many things are easier said than done. After all, broken hearts take the longest to heal....

  • Pray. Meditation is also good for the soul.
  • Immerse yourself in a piece of literature; get your mind on another plot or story. 
  • Indulge yourself. Go out to eat with a friend at a favorite restaurant spot. And don't be afraid to dine out alone! Make food a friend, not an enemy. :)
  • Rub your bunny, puppy, cat, etc. Animals are great for giving and receiving love, and they are quite intuitive. It's as if they can read your emotions. 
  • Go out walking or biking. Be in the sunlight and beauty of nature. 
  • Don't get too caught up in sappy, slow, depressing love songs. 
  • Find a new hobby to keep your mind and body busy. 
  • Try to laugh and be around people who'll laugh with you. It's a good feeling. (And the endorphins will work wonders.)
  • Stay away from social networking websites for a while. It will only hurt and make the healing process longer if you try to stay current with what your ex is doing or whom s/he is with, or analyzing photos. That's one of the worst things you can do to yourself. 
  • Talk to someone who has been in the same/similar situation. It helps to put a face with the knowledge that you can make it through as well. 
  • Go get ice cream with a friend. 
  • Keep a journal of emotions, thoughts, and feelings. 
  • Be prepared to have good days, bad days, and a whirlwind of emotions. 
  • Talk with a friend or loved one; don't bottle things up. 
  • Cry. It's perfectly okay. It's an unspoken conveying to yourself of how you feel. 
  • Tinker with some arts and crafts. Create something, juxtapose to the loss of love you're feeling. 
  • Everyday you're getting stronger. Be proud of yourself; don't beat yourself up. And remember: "We must face tomorrow, whatever it may hold, with determinationjoy, and bravery.” ~ Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium :) 
  • Time is your friend...."Time wounds all heels." ~John Lennon :) 
  • No two people are the same. Therefore, don't compare the time it takes for you to heal to the time it takes for someone else. Whether it takes a few weeks or months, don't worry. Love lost is just that: a loss. Everyone processes and deals with heartbreak differently. Just don't let discouragement make you feel as if you're not making progress. 
  • Take a vacation. This will allow time to/for yourself, a change of scenery, and an opportunity to process your thoughts and emotions.